Do you guys remember that movie Fight Club with Edward Norton and Brad Pitt where Brad Pitt is shirtless and wearing pants that fall, like, ten inches below his waist?  Well, that last part doesn’t have much to do with this post (it’s just that when I reference Fight Club, I can’t NOT think about it), but what DOES relate this post to Fight Club are the Rules of Fight Club.  You know, the first rule of Fight Club is that you don’t talk about Fight Club, and the second rule of Fight Club is that you DO NOT talk about Fight Club … and then you forget all the rest of the rules, even though you probably shouldn’t.

I think the Rules of Dressing for a Wedding, which are definitely out there, are kind of like the Rules of Fight Club.  I know the first rule is that you don’t wear white to a wedding, and the second rule is that you DO NOT wear white to a wedding, and then I sort of forget everything else.  And every time I’m staring into my closet with a wedding invitation in my hand, I know I should really remember them.

So I struggle and I stress, but when I land on something I think works incredibly well, I recycle it like crazy.  That’s what happened here with this Nanette Lepore dress from her Spring 2012 collection.  It’s lilac lace over a neon orange shell (see the full image below), and I think the effect is romantic and joyful and unique without being too loud.  Indeed, I think pastels and lace are always a good call for a wedding.  And for this wedding in Provence, I paired it with a lilac fascinator I got off of Etsy.

So if it’s not already on the Rules for Dressing for a Wedding, I’d add, “When you find something that works, don’t be afraid to hang on to it and re-wear it to other weddings.”  After all, it can be that “something old” that’s supposed to represent continuity.

And if some guy who looks like Brad Pitt wants to show up shirtless with his pants hanging off, I’d be okay with adding that to the rules too …